"I sat down at the kitchen table, picked up a pen, and wrote in the margins: to nurture free, independent, women who can take care of themselves, choose their lovers wisely, and raise their children right."

(Cleage, 1992, p. 157)

Have you ever wanted someone to tell you how to live your life as an adult? Have you longed for someone (anyone) to provide you with the cheat code to happiness? We're all attempting to figure out this thing called life, but what helps is having the resources and advice from those before us. 

Our reparenting and inner child healing workbook provides eleven tips to heal and reparent your inner child, and while reading 'What looks like crazy on an ordinary day (#1 Idlewoood)' for our book club we stumbled upon more Black women self care gold. 

The ten tips provided are comprehensive and necessary. While our workbook highlights Black healing, mother wound healing, understanding the mother wound, primarily the mother wound in daughters, here are ten tenets every free woman should know according to Ava Johnson. 

'TEN THINGS EVERY FREE WOMAN SHOULD KNOW' From The Book 'What Looks Like Crazy On An Ordinary Day' 

1. How to grow food and flowers 

2.How to prepare food nutritiously 

3.Self-Defense 

4.Basic first aid/ sex education and midwifery 

"I leaned over to check the list again, then took it and wrote these five additional off the top of my head as subsets of the basic sex education component.

1. Don't f*ck men you don't like.

2. Bring your own birth control. 

3. Practice safe sex every time. 

4. If it's hurting you, it shouldn't be exciting him.

5. Don't fake—demonstrate."  (Cleage, 1992, p. 160)

5.Child care (prenatal/ early childhood development)

6.Basic literacy/ basic math / basic computer skills 

7.Defensive driving/ map reading/basic auto and home repairs 

8. Household budget/ money management 

9.Spiritual Practice

10.Physical Fitness/health/hygiene 

(Cleage, 1992, p. 158)