Why do healthy relationships feel “boring”?

Within our article Dating the "medium-ugly" guy might be better for your mental health  we address the possibility of dating the "medium-ugly" guy with hopes of finding a healthy partner, outside of physical appearance. Dating the "square" or "poindexter" can feel boring or unfulfilling, especially if this relationship follows a more toxic one. According to Psychology Today, here are three reasons why healthy relationships feel boring and bore some people. 

1. Relationships that feel like rollercoasters have become the norm for you 

2. You are accustomed to overextending yourself and ignore your needs

3. Due to conditioning, you believe that healthy and consistent relationships are boring 

Safe and secure relationships can feel boring at times and it's important to consider are these feelings related to past experiences. Lean into the feelings of safety and security. Share your needs and insecurities often. You deserve a a love that feels safe!

3 Reasons Why Healthy Relationships Bore Some People | Psychology Today. (n.d.). Www.psychologytoday.com. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/mindful-dating/202212/3-reasons-you-feel-bored-by-a-healthy-relationship